I chimed in: “I think hats are more patrimonial.”
Here’s the hat and jacket I wore last year (and will probably wear again this Third Sunday of Advent, Gaudete Sunday. We also sometimes try to wear liturgical colors, especially on the two Sundays of the year our priest wears the pink, er, rose vestments.
I do try to wear a hat when I go to church, but if I forget it, that’s okay. I’m not legalistic about this.
Chapel veils are lovely and welcome, but I think hats are more in tune with Anglican patrimony. Of course, we should be careful not to have such huge hats as to obstruct the view of those behind us, or, as one priest observed in the forum, make it difficult to administer the Chalice if he can’t see the face underneath the brim.
I also try to wear a skirt or a dress to church to reflect the complementarity of the sexes. Again, if I happen to have slacks on and it’s time for Mass and I can’t change, it’s not a big thing. I would also like it if men and boys would wear a jacket and tie to church, or at least a jacket or a nice sweater. But the last thing I would want is for people to feel pressured or judged or unwelcome if they chose to come in more casual dress.
Many years ago, one of my relatives who is not at all religious, decided to go to a Russian Orthodox church in her west coast city for Christmas Eve. She wore a long dressy coat over equally dressy black slacks. But she was turned away at the door for not wearing suitable attire, i.e. a dress or skirt. Well, she never darkened their door again, I’m sorry to say.
In Rome, signs tell you not to enter St. Peter’s with bare shoulders or skirts or shorts that are too short. It would be good to bring back a sense of decorum, or giving our best to God on Sundays in our dress and our comportment, our observance of silence before and after Mass and so on. But let’s have it happen organically, in freedom.
Christopher Mahon observed over at the Forum fascinators are also patrimonial. Our little Anna Trolly has some pretty headbands.